One of the things that I have discovered over the years, working as a medium and a teacher, is how easy it is to get trapped in the comfort zone. What do I mean by that? One thing that keeps me awake is to meet new challenges in my work, something that I never have done before. When I admit the challenge, the first thing that comes to mind is fear: Will I be able to do this? A very good mirror for me there is my students, when they are given homework to work with things they have never done before. I can hear them thinking: “Is this really achievable?” I still go through this process of uncertainty when I am given a new challenge. Sometimes I ask myself: Could I still do the things I ask my students to do? Have I become so complacent that I have forgotten how it feels to be at the beginning of something new?
Yes, I have a lot of experience and I have accepted a lot of challenges, but if I allow myself to stagnate in what I have already learned I believe that I lose my effectiveness, the tools that I use for my work become blunt. As a teacher and as a medium I am in many respects just a channel for spirit; that higher intelligence. So I believe, like any craftsman, that I have to update the tools I use and in some respect redesign them so that they meet the needs of spirit and the people that I work with, clients and students.
Over the years I have accepted challenges and stepped into unchartered territory. Once I am there, that is where I find new tools and learn new things. That is where I meet up with my weaknesses, the mistakes that I will undoubtedly make and above all, my fear of failure. It has always been an important for me to go into the unknown, both as a medium and as a person. To be in a comfort zone is okay for a while, but to remain there too long I will just stop developing.
A chapter in my book The Road to Freedom is called The Butterfly. That is when in meditation spirit send a butterfly to me that lure me out of the mind-set that I find myself in and put me back on the road to being creative again. The spirit world has done that to me many, many times. A new challenge will always come when they think I am in danger of becoming complacent.
From time to time I also have to check out my own attitude to discover where I really am, if it is time to come out of the comfort zone. Life has a knack of reminding us when we are becoming stagnant. I become restless, I can lose impetus and my mind is not as open as it should be. In the past I have looked towards other people to solve this problem for me, but in the end the answer lies within me. Complacency is an easy trap to fall into, but a harder one to get out of.
Do you recognize anything that I write about within yourself? I would like to hear your thoughts about this.